Choose To Be Beautiful & Happy!
10 Healthy Emotional Habits To Build Up Your Self Esteem.
Recently, I was researching for my content creation class and while looking for campaign examples I came across the Dove #ChooseBeautiful campaign. This campaign was part of an experiment on how women perceived themselves and was created to empower women. In the experiment, women walking into a mall were presented with 2 door options, one labeled BEAUTIFUL and the other AVERAGE. Interestingly, most of the women chose to walk through the AVERAGE door. (You can watch the #ChooseBeautiful video by clicking HERE). When we discussed the video in class, my girls were shocked by how many beautiful women chose to walk through the AVERAGE door and how much it resonated with the actual reality.
Though the campaign is more than 5 years old, the topic is very much relevant even today. Many of us aspire to be something else, to fit into the stereotype of what “beauty” is for society. While some want to be “fairer”, some want to be “thinner” or have “lustrous long hair”. While there is no harm in trying on products or staying fit, the choice of who we are must lie with us and not be pressurized by society’s notions.
When we do not see ourselves as beautiful, it is not just the physical beauty that we talk about but also the mental state and our ‘self-worth’. In trying to fit a certain stereotype, many women have harmed themselves physically through beauty treatments that have gone wrong. Of course, there is the mental trauma that comes where you undermine yourself or are constantly judged by others.
So, isn’t it time that we took charge of how we perceive ourselves? Once we are confident in our skin, we automatically discourage others from putting us down and lowering our worth.
Here are 10 ways that you can boost your self-esteem and build a positive perception.
- Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin
As they say “Variety Is The Spice Of Life”. All of us are not created the same for a reason, for otherwise, life would be very boring. Accept yourself as you are – both your strengths and weaknesses. Once we accept, we automatically become confident and take away the ability from others to belittle us. It also opens up an opportunity for us to work on our weaknesses and convert them to strengths.
- Appreciate Others Without Comparison
You will always come across people who have more than you – it could be how they look, their job, the monetary assets they may have or the talents that they may possess. Genuinely appreciate them and what they have. Never compare yourself or what you have with others. That is the secret to being happy. In turn, you could also have something that they may appreciate. Remember, “Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining”.
- Learn To Accept Compliments For What They Are
This one is easier said than done. And is a vicious circle, because many people who have been put down constantly resist compliments. But an effort has to be made to receive & accept compliments paid to us instead of brushing them aside as politeness of the other person. When you accept a compliment, you are essentially acknowledging your self-worth.
- Surround Yourself With Positive People & True Friends
Positive people and true friends always boost up your morale and fill you with a sense of confidence. They genuinely praise your achievements and support you in dealing with any shortcomings. They never humiliate you or undermine your worth. With them around and supporting you, even a daunting task can be achieved and every success celebrated.
- Challenge Yourself And Strive To Do Better
All of us have a comfort zone. But many times, if we are looking to achieve something extraordinary we have to move out of this zone and accept challenges. It can do wonders for our confidence and self-esteem.
- Work On Your Competencies
Understand yourself and what you are good at. If you have an aptitude for something, it becomes that much easier to master it than trying to be good at something that you are not good at. For instance, if you are a creative person it becomes easier for you to learn a new form of art.
- Work On Staying Healthy
A healthy body feeds a healthy mind. Eat right, sleep well and get enough exercise to keep yourself fit. This boosts your mental health as well and automatically increases your sense of well-being. Remember, it is not about conforming to body size or shape but about staying fit and healthy.
- Affirm Your Worth
As strange as it may sound, actually listing down your capabilities can help boost your self-esteem. You can also use affirmations as a reminder to make you work hard and take you closer to achieving your goal.
- Learn Something New
One of the proven techniques to help handle low self-esteem is learning a new skill in the creative field. It brings with it the curiosity & adrenaline rush of doing something new and helps you distract from unnecessary drama. As you are occupied it keeps you away from negative people as well.
- Return The Favour
Talk about your experiences with people and what worked for you. It not only helps the other person but is very cathartic to you as well.
In the end, we need to work on ourselves and put our happiness first. Hope these emotional habits will help those in need. What do you think of them? What are some of the things that you follow to keep yourself happy? Do write to me in the comments below. I would love to hear from you!